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No Whining. No Dining.
Is whining the way to more business?
That's the rule at my house. If you whine, moan or complain about what's being served for dinner, then you are asked to leave the kitchen table. You may return when everyone else has finished.
The idea is simple. Be civil. Use your talking words. Express things in a positive way. You can let someone know that it's not your favorite food without having a hissy fit. What we try to teach our kids is that whining does not get you attention and it certainly does not get you dinner.
"There's way too much complaining in the world," said Will Bowen a 47-year old clergyman. Will Bowen, did not say that publicly about our house - but there are days when he could have. Bowen recognized the patterns that many of us fall into at dinner and throughout the day. And now, he's taking matters into his own hands. Not just at the dinner table - but across the board 24/7. He challenged his flock at the Christ Church Unity in Kansas City Missouri to start looking on the brighter side - for 21 days straight. He handed out purple plastic bracelets (like the Live-strong ones) to remind them to be positive.
He discovered it was pretty darn hard to do. He "broke three bracelets" over four months, mostly dealing with complaints about the church, before hitting the three week mark.
A participant said:
People who just started wearing the bracelet said:
Why 21 days?
Scientists believe it takes 21 days to form a new habit. And since complaining is habitual for most of us, they say you have to stick with it through the whole trial for it to take hold. Some people say that "kvetching is just part of our makeup." I have certainly seen my share of complaining in newsletters. I turn them "off" right away. But this makes me wonder:
Can kids and companies have something in common?
I can't answer that for you, but here's the deal for my clients. I enforce a strict "No Whining Policy". If my customers or colleagues whine, then they can leave our lunch meeting and come back when I'm finished.* Who wants to hear complaining in person or in a newsletter? Not me! Whether we're talking about poor wait service or a terrible traveling experience, I say get over it and get positive. Or as my husband likes to say: in his oh so sweet and gentle way: S.I.U. and M.O.
The message needs to be more positive than painful. Inspire don't impale.
It's the law of the universe. You will attract what you put out there. You get what you give. Spend your time talking about the negative and you will get more of that. Instead, focus your time and energy on the positive and you will reap the rewards in both the kitchen and with your customers.
Improve your puspeaking skillsBec
Have you heard about Toastmasters?
Have you been meaning to visit a club?
to Bo Bennett: an inspirational
more about Bellado. Based on the six basic principles of kindness,
respect, generosity, forgiveness, honesty, and patience, Bellado
is a path to making a difference in the world where 100% of the
focus is on others.
Light refreshments will be served.
Lexington Toastmasters Club
Monday May 21, 2007
6:45pm - 8:45pm
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